Do you live with regret? Do you keep telling yourself if I could go back in time I would change this and this and this? Is regret the central theme in your hot mama story? Regret, as defined in the American Dictionary, is to feel sorrow or remorse for an act.
re⋅gret [ri-gret] , -gret⋅ted, -gret⋅ting: –verb: 1. to feel sorrow or remorse for (an act, fault, disappointment, etc).
2. to think of with a sense of loss: to regret one's vanished youth, etc.
Why live with regret? You can't change the past, so why dwell on it? It is done. Time to move on. Live in the present! There is no cure for regret. It is something you have to accomplish on your own. Yes, we all make some bad choices in our life. We are all human (or at least most of us are, and that is another article).
I have friends that long to live in the past. They keep putting themselves down by reliving their bad choices. Living with remorse is not going to help you move on. You just need to learn to let go and move on. It is a lot healthier for you. Why not learn from those bad choices so you don't make them again?
I have heard lots of regrets over the years. For example, I should have enjoyed my time with my parents/grandparents more before they moved on..., I shouldn't have married him. There were so many signs...., I shouldn't have said those things.....I shouldn't have done this or this....
Well, reality is, what is done is done. Ask yourself this: "What can I learn from these experiences so I don't repeat them again"? "What can I do to take that unfortunate situation and change it into a life-altering experience?" "What can make me a better person all around?"
There are so many questions that can only be answered by you and you alone. No one else can get inside your head and see what you are thinking. This is something you have to do on your own. It is time for you to hold you head up high. Tell yourself I will do this from now on. I will be my own biggest cheerleader. Concentrate on the new positive side of that regret. Soon you will learn to live without regret. You will learn to say what is done is done. I can't change it, but I can change me.
Regret can either make or break you.* Don't let it write your hot mama story. You are in control of your own life. You can make it better. Yesterday is done. Today is what you should be living to your fullest. Tomorrow is a new adventure. Make the most out of it. Life is too short to live with regret. Good luck, and remember, it is all up to you now!
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* Depression is serious, and very real, illness. If you are feeling overwhelmed by feelings or thoughts of sadness, please talk to your doctor or a mental health professional!
